Perhaps one of the biggest contributors to anxiety in people is the worry they get in their personal relationships. This is hardly surprising when we consider the importance we attach to our personal connections with people.
Feeling insecure in relationships can lead to anxiety and irrational behaviour. However, there is also the problem of low self esteem that prevents some people from building relationships with others in the first place. To tackle this problem we need to confront it head on.
Coaching is a wonderful way of instilling a belief in yourself that prevents personal hang-ups interfering with the development of strong personal relationships. Coaching is a form of self-empowerment encouraging the individual to take control over their own life.
When we are feeling safe and secure, life tends to become that extra bit easier. There are various coaching techniques available to you that are very easy to pick up and can be used at any time. You should think of coaching as being like a survival pack of tools to use against the uncertainties of life.
Many people attempt to enter into an intimate relationship with somebody before they have got to know the most important person they know – Herself! The way we get to know who somebody is comes from asking the right questions, and the same applies to one another.
The art of coaching can teach you to ask the right questions for the most useful answers. Coaching is all about developing an inquisitive, curious nature that is always asking questions, rather like a child.
As an adult you may be out of the habit of questioning, because you have got into a mindset that all your questions need to sound sensible and intelligent. Well, I have some news for you: the best questions are the simplest ones because they provide clarity and insight.
Before you start forming very intimate attachments to people, make sure you know the answer to questions, such as ‘What is it that honestly makes me happy’. Life coaching experts refer to these questions as empowering questions because they empower us with answers of who we are.
The best relationships, either intimate or friendships, are formed between people with common interests, values and beliefs. The more we share in common with someone the more compatible we will be.
This means finding someone with a similar sense of humour, a similar sense of right and wrong and a similar attitude towards work and play. We need to therefore consider getting to know ourselves before we try striking up a relationship.
During you self-coaching question and answer sessions, you should take time out to think about you own values and beliefs, your moral code and what characteristics are working well for you at the minute. By identifying the aspects of your character that are unhelpful to forming relationships, you can readily take action against them and replace them with more helpful characteristics.
Coaching is about encouraging yourself to change and adopt new behaviours. Focus on identifying positive new habits that will enable you to take control over your life and your relationships.
Remember that knowledge is power. With knowledge you gain leverage among others. The people you liaise with will respect you for the trouble you have taken in getting to know things you are not expected to understand.
The more strings you add to your bow – the more confident you will become in all of your daily activities. This also sets an example to everyone else you are connected with in a relationship. The more you get to know each other, the deeper the connection.
The same principle applies to your working relationships as well. Think about how much you appreciate somebody who remembers your birthday, who offers to return a favour, who is thoughtful and endearing.
If you get to know your colleagues, you have the knowledge to make yourself indispensable to them.
Feeling secure in your relationships comes from knowing and understanding them fully.
Developing a firm understanding of both yourself and the people you know will empower you to make the right decisions when you interact with them. Remember that knowledge empowers you, so ask lots of questions. Become more than just a flake by taking proactive decisions over your choice of relationships.
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